Besides the LV backpack for 2800 USD (about 65 million VND) and the Hermes watch for 4000 USD (about 92 million VND), Vivian – a Chinese international student is enjoying a prosperous life in an apartment.
While many of her classmates are trying to work part-time, Vivian not only doesn’t pay rent, but also has several thousand dollars in her account every month to spend.
Vivian, 20 years old, from China, claimed to have 3 `sugar daddies` as sugar daddies. The term `sugar daddies` is used a lot in Western society, used to refer to older men who pay for sugar daddies.
In recent years, websites and mobile applications have helped establish a dating device between older men and younger women, applications that have been criticized by Western media, saying
As an international student, Vivian found her “sugar daddy” through various websites including Sugar Book and Seeking Arrangement. Vivian said: “I had about eight relationships like that… I think it was like a
Among Vivian’s 3 `sugar daddies` currently, the youngest is a businessman in Hong Kong, 40 years old, the oldest is Malaysian, 66 years old, and the remaining one is from Taiwan.
Vivian said that all three men know each other’s existence and they all have their own families.
Hong Kong’s `sugar daddy` often goes to Auckland on business, and the other two will pay her to fly on a business class plane to resorts to find them.
Vivian said that they had sex when they met, but she didn’t think that sex was the only reason sugar daddies were looking for her.
“We are really in love, sex is just a normal thing in the relationship between boyfriend and girlfriend, right?
Vivian said that she learned these things through friends who were once `sugar babies`.
There are more and more international students like Vivian, they no longer work and study, but start to go on the path of dating older uncles to be supported in a luxurious life, without having to work hard.
Professor Edwina Pio of the Auckland University of Technology believes that more and more students are choosing to become `sugar babies`, which is linked to the desire to pursue a luxury lifestyle.
The US website Seeking Arrangement said there are more than 50,000 registered members in New Zealand.
Professor Paul Spoonley, vice president of Massey University, said: `The school allows students to work part-time to pay for their studies.
For dating sites with older men, students over 18 years old can register by providing their email address and photo.
The definition of “sugar baby” or “sugar daddy”, “sugar mama”, all are related to the exchange of flesh and money.
Emily, 23 years old, an international student, initially thought the same.
But days later, she discovered that things were not simple at all.
Fiona, a 21-year-old international student, after signing up for a dating website with uncles, she took the time to improve her profile because she really needed money.
“I have spent a lot of time introducing my excellent University.
Just like Emily, Fiona quickly realized the problem.
“The first time we met, he and I drank coffee together, and also this first time I did not receive any money.
I realized that it is very difficult to find a man who just wants to simply date and then give money.
It is not surprising that a `sugar baby` does not accept sex and it is difficult to achieve the average monthly income of 2580 USD (about 60 million VND) as described on the web.
Brandon Wade, founder of Seeking Arrangement, claims that the purpose of this website is to help students pay for tuition: “According to member survey data, many students have had to drop out of school because of cost issues.
A Seeking Arrangement spokesperson stated: “This is a dating site and does not want to target anyone.
Ms. Catherine Alice Healy, an activist for the rights of sex workers in New Zealand, believes that the relationship between `sugar daddy – sugar baby` and prostitution is no different, because very few `sugar daddies` want to find
She emphasized: “This was clearly a commercial sexual relationship.
Ms. Catherine Alice Healy, an activist for the rights of sex workers in New Zealand, believes that the relationship between `sugar daddy – sugar baby` and prostitution is no different.
Catherine Alice Healy believes that `sugar babies` will get into more trouble than sex workers because they don’t think they are doing sex work.
“They may be naive and don’t think they’re doing sex work and don’t have enough awareness of the risks they face,” she said.
In New Zealand, although the sex industry is a legal business, only New Zealand citizens or residents are allowed to become prostitutes.
Professor Paul Spoonley, vice-president of Massey University, said that University students should become active and creative people.
`This will put your studies and visas while in New Zealand at risk, and it may also put you at risk. In particular, if the relationship is illegal then you will not be protected by the law.`
According to data released by Immigration New Zealand, 136 people were deported directly on suspicion of illegal prostitution in 2017, with 312 people deported when they entered the country because they were suspected of being involved in prostitution.
After all, the `sugar daddy – sugar baby` relationship cannot hide the transactional nature of love and money.
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